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In her book, The Language of Letting Go, Melody Beattie tells the story of how she was able to recover from an abusive childhood and a lifetime of addiction. This inspirational memoir is not just for those who have suffered before, but also for anyone seeking a better life. If you’re struggling with abuse or addiction in your own life, this book will provide hope that things can get better.
Discover the most inspiring sentences from Melody Beattie.

Here are the most interesting Control, Love, Time, Life, Energy, Heart quotes from Melody Beattie, and much more.


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About Melody Beattie

birth of the author

2 July 1948

education of the author

High School

college of the author

Alma Mater:
Minnehaha Academy

genre of the author

Self-Help Books

award of the author

Notable Works:
Codependent No More


Control is an illusion. โ€” Melody Beattie

Today, I will let go. I will stop trying to control everything. I will stop trying to make myself be and do better, and I will let myself be. โ€” Melody Beattie

Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life. โ€” Melody Beattie

Gratitude helps us stop trying to control outcomes. It is the key that unlocks positive energy in our life. It is the alchemy that turns problems into blessings, and the unexpected into gifts. โ€” Melody Beattie

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The only person you can now or ever change is yourself. The only person that it is your business to control is yourself. โ€” Melody Beattie


Love yourself just as you are. โ€” Melody Beattie

Who you are is love. What love does is heal. โ€” Melody Beattie

Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe. โ€” Melody Beattie

The more we learn to love and respect ourselves, the more we will become attracted to people who will love and respect us and who we can safely love and respect. โ€” Melody Beattie

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Embrace and love all of yourselfโ€“past, present, and future. Forgive yourself quickly and as often as necessary. Encourage yourself. Tell yourself good things about yourself. โ€” Melody Beattie

I used to be afraid of pain, didn’t take a lot of risks, especially in love. I’m not as afraid anymore. I’m more spontaneous, more likely to say what I think. โ€” Melody Beattie

Detaching does not mean we don’t care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy. โ€” Melody Beattie

Love means each person is free to follow his or her own heart. โ€” Melody Beattie

We decided that sooner or later you had to learn to live without almost everybody, at least for a while. Even people you didn’t think you could live without.’ p 167 love always found itself again. โ€” Melody Beattie

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When you wonder what is coming, tell yourself the best is coming, the very best life and love have to offer, the best God and His universe have to send. Then open your hands to receive it. It’s yours. โ€” Melody Beattie

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.1โ€“II TIMOTHY 1:7 โ€” Melody Beattie

What’s a codependent? The answer’s easy. They’re some of the most loving, caring people I know. โ€” Melody Beattie


Each moment in time we have it all, even when we think we don’t. โ€” Melody Beattie

Waiting time is not wasted time. Something is being worked outโ€“in us, in someone else, in the Universe. โ€” Melody Beattie

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Taking time to rest, renew, and refresh yourself isn’t wasted time. Recharge. Choose what energizes you. โ€” Melody Beattie

In martial arts, every time you graduate, move to another level, you don’t forget everything you’ve done. You build on it, but it’s always there. โ€” Melody Beattie


If that person doesn’t want to be in your life, just let him or her leave. โ€” Melody Beattie

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. โ€” Melody Beattie

Each life needs its own quiet place. โ€” Melody Beattie

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If we are unhappy without a relationship, we’ll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn’t begin our life; a relationship doesn’t become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life. โ€” Melody Beattie

Relax, you’re on a journey of discovery. Let life reveal itself to you. โ€” Melody Beattie

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What do you do when life blindfolds you and spins you around? We think it’s our fault, that we’re to blame, when really we should be focused on being gentle with ourselves. โ€” Melody Beattie

We need to build downtime into our lives, so that we can have solitude without feeling overcome with guilt. โ€” Melody Beattie

Quit hanging on to the handrails . . . Let go. Surrender. Go for the ride of your life. Do it every day. โ€” Melody Beattie

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Living our lives may not be an exciting prospect to some of us either. Maybe we’ve been so wrapped up in other people that we’ve forgotten how to live and enjoy our lives. โ€” Melody Beattie

Expressing passion and gratitude will guide your life. Say it again and again. Say it until you believe it. Say it until you live it. โ€” Melody Beattie

If we are waiting for guaranteed courses of action, we may spend much of our life waiting. โ€” Melody Beattie

Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction. โ€” Melody Beattie

Letting go of our ideas about how life should go is a choice that sets life’s magic free. โ€” Melody Beattie

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God, help me let go of my need to be afraid. I welcome peace, trust, acceptance, and safety into my life. I will make a point of listening to my healthy, rational fears, and will relinquish all the others. โ€” Melody Beattie

Live your life fom your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people’s souls. โ€” Melody Beattie


Start today to follow your heart. Map out your own journey. Have the adventure of a lifetime. โ€” Melody Beattie

According to some Eastern religion, there is a belt that goes across the world, and I’ve heard that Minnesota is right in the heart of this spiritualโ€“creative belt of energy. โ€” Melody Beattie

You don’t blast a heart open,’ she said. ‘You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose. โ€” Melody Beattie

When our heart is broken, we can’t hear it. And when we can’t hear our heart, we can’t hear God. โ€” Melody Beattie


Don’t violate your own code of values and ethics, but don’t waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs. โ€” Melody Beattie

Furthermore, worrying about people and problems doesn’t help. It doesn’t solve problems, it doesn’t help other people, and it doesn’t help us. It is wasted energy. โ€” Melody Beattie

Gratitude turns negative energy into positive energy. There is no situation or circumstance so small or large that it is not susceptible to gratitude’s power. โ€” Melody Beattie

Seek healing, a refilling of energy and spirit, as soon as you see that you need it. You don’t have to push yourself to give, do, or perform when what your body, mind, soul and emotions need is to heal. โ€” Melody Beattie

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